- Be vulnerable.
- Listen to each other.
- Help each other.
It was a letter from a ‘Young Me’ to a slightly older me. I wrote it on June 9, 1993.
The reason the letter is meaningful is because — I believe — it shows how we sell our lives short.
It is a life where cherishing moments and cherishing every day takes absolute precedence, and a life’s purpose is fulfilled.
Life’s chains are reduced or even removed:
– The Wrong Careers. . . that rob us of time and happiness.
– Public Opinion. . . that can hold us back from following our hearts.
– Fear. . . that stops us from doing the things we know we need to in life.
– Food/drugs/alcohol. . . that create empty happiness when overused.
– The Wrong Relationships. . . that keep us from better authentic & vulnerable relationships.
– Entertainment. . . that has us engrossed in fake lives, and not our own lives. . .
It’s time to stop living a life unchanged.
It’s time to start living a life unchained.
Growing up, my mother suffered from Multiple Sclerosis, along with a few other debilitating diseases. As I was entering middle school, doctors were sure she only had six months to live. I remember the day I heard the news. I can still see the blank empty look on my mother’s face. I can still feel my heart sinking into my stomach. I can still hear the silence. Though the room was quiet, I have never been in a more overwhelming space. My mind and body, both in shock, were frozen still from the fear of losing the one person who’s always been there for me. Living with so many variables, my mother was my constant.
I was at work when it happened.
I spoke to him on the phone an hour before he passed away.
What if. . .
– When people met, there were three rules: 1.) Listen as much as you speak. 2.) Be vulnerable. 3.) Give advice, but only if advice is requested.
What if. . .
– The organization helped lots of people who desperately just needed someone to talk to. . . Maybe because they were lonely, or suffering from depression/anxiety, or simply needed someone in their lives to listen?
What if. . .
– The idea wasn’t about therapy or life coaching. It was just about talking. It was just about being vulnerable.
I bet. . .
– It’d help a lot of people.
I always have.
We live in a world where we feel we need to appear as though we have our act together all the time.
And yet: Vulnerability is attractive.
In under two hours of screen time, it sums up every major life lesson.
Five of the most important lessons are:
Last winter, I looked successful.
At work I had been promoted, and I was being groomed for more promotion; I also ran a growing business outside of work; Plus I was running a non-profit on the weekends. . . all while juggling family and friends to boot.
I looked successful.
But behind the scenes I was reeling.
Social media hurts life.
But the good news is we can change it. . .
* * *
The problem with social media is that it has us all comparing our lives to each other.